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What is an Empowered HSP?
Over the years of working with HSPs, I've synthesized what I think of when describing an empowered vs. an unempowered HSP. If you find yourself in the latter category, don't worry. Just know there is a way to heal and gain insight to use your sensitivity as the gift. Thousands of HSPs are doing just that.
The Empowered HSP
The empowered HSP is someone who:
- Has a strong spiritual life and sense of being worthy
- Proactive - taking time to figure out things ahead of time
- Resourceful in reaching out, finding answers and asking for what you need
- Trusts their instincts and intuition to grow and change
- Has knowledge, understanding and acceptance of the trait
- Takes the initiative to act vs. react
- Is good at setting boundaries
- Is good as identifying, accepting and expressing needs
- Is good at recognizing strengths in self and others
- Perserves at finding a unique way "to fit" in the world in a meaningful way
- Does cognitive work to prevent the downward spiral into negative thought patterns
- Feels in control even in the midst of chaos
- Promotes the trait as a positive
- Honors and recognizes their 'priestly advisor' gifts
- Can say 'no' without apology, anger, guilt, resentment or defensiveness
- Strives to find and follow a passion
- Is responsive to "light" and "truth" as in 'numinous'
- Is at peace, rest, centered in love (not necessarily with another person, but 'love' as a way of being.
- Has developed and practiced coping skills such as meditation, boundary setting, getting enough sleep
- Respects and honors emotional reactions to disturbing events
- Trusts in the beauty of their feelings and needs
The Unempowered HSP
The unempowered HSP is someone who:
- Is reactive
- Insecure, helpless, in a victim mode
- Stuck in untreated depression, anxiety or other maladies
- Is unaware of the trait, or in denial of the trait
- Shame based - untreated low self-esteem
- Can't see their strengths - only their weaknesses
- Becomes a doormat for others
- Stays in unhealthy situations
- Has no initiative or courage to seek change
- Allows the culture to dictate the definition of 'success'
- Does not own/take responsibility for their feelings and needs
- Sees only the negative in the world - tending toward depression
- Has a silent angry temper who refuses to communicate openly and honestly
- Has a tendency to judge others
Can Someone Be an Empowered HSP All the Time?
Probably not. Becoming an empowered HSP is a process and a long journey for many of us. Maintaining the empowered state of mind is a day to day, situation to situation process.
Wishing you lovely, empowered HSP days,
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